| In Your Midst | In Memoriam |
July 2010 |
Father Ryan remembers Jim Impett
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Jim, I think, never made a friend he didn’t keep. And I don’t just mean that he held onto friendships; I mean that he cultivated and nurtured them. For Jim friends were not passing fads, they were gifts of a lifetime. Of course, the greatest friendship of his life was his friendship with his wife Julie. Over the years, I spent many an evening with Jim and Julie in their home doing marriage preparation sessions with young engaged couples. It was work but we had fun. There were always loads of laughs, thanks to Jim’s delightfully understated, self-deprecating humor, but those couples learned a lot, too. More than anything, they learned the lesson Jim and Julie unfailingly taught both by word and example. Marriage is about “pulling together,” they would say. “We didn’t get married to argue or fight or disagree, we got married to pull together.” To illustrate the point, at the end of the sessions, they always presented the couples with a beautiful pair of Gorham silver salad tongs – a nice, tangible reminder about pulling together. Jim’s love of music and music-making, and his commitment to quality Church music made their mark on all of us. Good Church music was not just Jim’s passion, it was his mission. He spent much of his life promoting good music and performing good music. Music was never an ‘add on’ or a luxury for Jim: it was at the very heart of Catholic worship and, for that reason, it had to be first rate. Jim was one of a handful of fine Catholic musicians on the local scene who, during his long professional career, made a lasting mark on Church music and Church musicians. If they were good, he encouraged them; if they were talented, he inspired them, if they needed help, he mentored them. Here at St. James, Jim was our best critic and our most enthusiastic supporter. He loved this place where, as a young man, he had worked so hard to make good music; and he took personal pride in what happened here: in the musicians, in their talents and accomplishments, in the liturgies, and in their beauty. In these last few years since his stroke, Jim’s “cathedra” was right over there. From it, he would hold court following the 10:00 Mass when his many friends, including some Cathedral musicians, would come by for a Jim ‘fix’ – a good word, his trademark smile (as much in his eyes and eyebrows as on his lips), a memorable quip, and most probably a carefully crafted comment about the music of the day. The Cathedral musicians will miss their greatest and best critic and I am confident they will honor his memory by continuing to make great music here simply by being the fine musicians they are. These paragraphs are extracts from |